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Why Should We Plan Our Family?

Why Should We Plan Our Family?

Why it should be the age of 26 years?
Because, I strongly believe that a girl should spend three to five years with husband before having children. I became a parent of two children after 5 years of marriage and we as a couple being mostly on our own, realized that it is a 24 hours job. Then husband focuses on the baby and fatherhood, and wife focuses on the baby and motherhood, they hardly have time for each other. Life dramatically changes once you have a little cute baby around at the age of 31 and 32 and for the next one ideally, there should be a fap of three years between the two children because when the first child starts going to kindergarten by the age of around 4, then you are ready for the second child.
Same thing happened to us, my wife wanted to have children and I did insisted that we were in the US and could not afford to have children so soon. Our parents too were not exactly available there. So, after mutual agreement we enjoyed first five years of our life, and after five years we really wanted to become parents. When we became parents fortunately, we did not plan for the second one, but we had two children in one year, a girl and a boy and we were ready for it.
We finished our education and training and we both could focus, especially the mom for next five years on raising both the children. For the first five years, we were working part time and making 50% of our income so that we would be able to have time to spend with children.
After children started going to kindergarten school and the primary school and their after hour program and different programs did cost us more money. But, paradoxically, actually since we could work for longer hours, we were making more money.
Fortunately, especially in contrast I can mention about a couple who got married almost at the same time we did and they just lie us, had two boys within tow years after marriage. Thing is, if you are living in a big joint family where your parents, your sister in laws and other family members are there in the house to help you out, it becomes much easier and they can take care of the children. You can get a break and you can go out.
But, once you have one small child or two small children and if only you as a couple is there to take care of the child, then the baby becomes most important and you literally have to put rest of your life on hold till children start going to kindergarten.
You cannot just pick up a car and drive to the next town or catch a flight or go in the morning and come back in the evening. One time, before having children, we just picked up a car an drove for five days to Pennsylvania for an exam and enjoyed our time and a mini honeymoon.
My close friend got married in the same month as we did and same situation like us, we both were couples in the same town. We delayed our children for five years but they had two boys within first two years of their marriage and we could understand that they were not ready for such a hectic life right after marriage.
As we all went through life, we saw our close friends going through crisis in their lives. All four of us are doctors. Things have stabilized now but as those first five years were full of pleasure for us, it was equally difficult for my friend and his wife because of new marriage, training and two children, all within aa short time period.


  • Mayank Chaturvedi Posted April 17, 2020 12:35 pm

    Your thinking is good. But I don’t think every one follow this.

  • Darshna welling Posted April 22, 2020 7:04 am

    Intriguing reading, surely i am gonna share this with my family and friends:p

  • Manju Saxena Posted April 24, 2020 8:46 am

    Kindly make uniform law throughout India. Make family planning control bill. Don t hesitate to any community. This our country not muslim country. Here population is more not like western country. So make family planning bill first and make common law..

  • Anamika Mahajan Posted April 27, 2020 6:37 am

    having a healthy baby at age 40 is absolutely possible. I am one of the examples

  • Ziva Rathore Posted May 2, 2020 6:24 am

    Those guiltiness you mention your blog article is so informative and its real help those you need a great future for their families and the parents also get help for principles to bud best family bonding and successful future.

  • Saddam Posted June 30, 2020 9:13 am

    Every stage of life planning is must important in our life without planning things are delivered as we want !!!

    • Add15Years Posted July 2, 2020 11:41 am

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  • Nisha Posted June 30, 2020 9:53 am

    Well said and true info every married couple should give it a thought.

    • Add15Years Posted July 2, 2020 12:01 pm

      Thanks for your feedback!

  • Mithlesh Yadav Posted July 1, 2020 12:43 pm

    I always plan to do so but never completed any plan of them so now I am not going to plan no more for my family. I will run with time and I am sure that everything will become good.

    • Add15Years Posted July 2, 2020 11:45 am

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